Sometimes I think my kids don't like me

 Have you ever wondered whether your kids like you? I do, and it is something that I struggle with a lot. I think I am a pretty good mum most of the time. I tell my kids I love them all the time, I show them physical signs of affection, I do nice things with them and for them and they are fed and clothed. I do all these things for them but for some reason they act like they would rather not have me around.

Last night was a prime example. I was trying to get my two year old back to sleep (after she woke up with a dirty nappy). She wanted to come into our bed for a little bit so I took her in and we lay down. Suddenly she recoiled from me screaming "No Mummy! No! I don't want you!" I tried to comfort her but she was having none of it. My hubby came back in, picked her up and she settled back to sleep. I didn't say anything at the time but I was really hurt by it. If it was an isolated incident I wouldn't mind but it happens all the time. Of course the baby still loves me best, but I suspect as soon as I stop breastfeeding her it will end.

The big girls always want their Daddy

If my kids hurt themselves they rarely want mummy (unless I am the only one around). It is always "Not you Mummy, I want Daddy". Other times they have even gone to find comfort in my friends rather than me. I see other people whose kids ONLY want mummy and while I guess that would drive me crazy, I feel a little jealous. I want to be able to comfort them when they are sick or sad.

My hubby can see it and he really tries to get them to show me they love me, which I really appreciate. I often feel the need to tell him that I don't abuse them when he isn't around. I promise I don't. I love those kids more than I can express.

In some ways it is good. It means that I can share the load of caring for the kids with my hubby. He is a very hands on dad, and that means the world to me, and to the girls. It would be impossible for me to have them all wanting me all the time. Although, I do feel a bit sorry for him when they are all hanging off him because they love him sooooo much.

My precious girls

I do know my kids love me even if they don't always show it. I just have to make sure I cherish the cuddles and kisses when they come and keep showing them that my love is always there. And it reminds me of the way I often treat God and that His love for me remains constant even when I ignore Him. 

Do you ever feel your kids don't like you? Or are you the one they go to?

Linking up with Jess from Diary of a SAHM